Respect - ESOL 10

 Respect

The Psychology of respect

Respect is an important component of personal self-identity and interpersonal relationships. It tends to be a self-reinforcing behaviour. Treating someone with respect means:

- showing regard for their abilities and worth

- valuing their feelings and their views, even if you don't necessarily agree with them

- accepting them on an equal basis and giving them the same consideration you would expect for yourself.

Respect begins with oneself

Each of us has our particular way of coping with the world. Some of us are assertive - we take charge of situations, we make decisions, we exude self-confidence. We expect to be listened to and respected, and we generally are. In contrast, some of us can lack self-confidence and under-value ourselves. This can negatively impact our ability to form relationships and engage effectively with others. We can struggle to share and reflect on our emotions, we find it difficult to adapt to change, and feel ill-equipped to tackle our challenges.

Simple strategies that can reinforce our sense of self, give us the courage to find our voices and earn us the respect of those around us, include the following:

- Use body language- Act as though you are confident e.g. a positive posture

- Speak positively and project confidence. Don't be boastful, but don't diminish yourself with your words.

- As far as possible, surround yourself with people who are positive and supportive of your best interests.

Why is respect important?

Receiving respect from others is important because it helps us to feel safe and to express ourselves. Being respected by important people in our lives growing up teaches us how to be respectful towards others. Respect means that you accept somebody for who they are, even when they're different from you or you don't agree with them. Respect in your relationships builds feelings of trust, safety, and wellbeing. Respect doesn't have to come naturally - it is something you learn.